ALL THE SINGLE LADIES

single |ˈsɪŋg(ə)l| adjective 1 [ attrib. ] only one; not one of several • regarded as distinct from each other or others in a group: She was single, strong, and happy.

I’m happily married to my best friend now, but I remember the seasons in my life when I wondered when (or if ever) I would find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I waited for what seemed like forever for the perfect man for me.

But I’m so glad I waited for the right one.

If it hadn’t been for the foundational season I had with God before I met Field, I don’t think I would have been ready for marriage – to him or to anyone. I believe what we do with our single years will prepare a foundation for the marriage we will have someday. It’s in these years that we learn who we are, how to love and respect ourselves, and how to develop a deep relationship with God.   

I prayed for Field for many years before I met him. I knew I wanted a man that would be my best friend, but also someone who would lead me and our family spiritually. I wanted a leader, a man of faith, and a giver. God exceeded all of my expectations with Field.

While I was single, I paid off all my debt and read every book written on marriage and being a great wife. (Some of my favorites were: A Woman After God's Own Heart, A Wife After God's Own Heart, and The Power of a Praying Wife.) As a single woman, it seemed a little weird to be reading these books, but I had no clue what being a great wife should look like. I knew getting married and being a good wife was a desire of my heart, so I wanted to do whatever I could to prepare myself for it.

But most importantly, I learned how to put God first in my life. I knew if I couldn't do that while I was single (working full time and putting myself through grad school), I would never know how to do it once I had the additional responsibilities of being a wife and a mother.

And somewhere in that time of preparation, I met Field.  

I’m forever grateful I waited for Field because he is the greatest reflection of God's love on earth to me. His love and desire to serve God sets him apart from every other person I have ever met.

Field is my biggest motivator. He encourages me, supports my dreams, loves me unconditionally, teaches me about balance daily, pushes me, challenges me, allows me to grow, pours into me spiritually, prays with me daily, teaches me to dream bigger, to think bigger, and to expect bigger things in life. He reads the Bible every day so he can lead our family to places only God can direct.

Don't settle for less than God's best for you. The person you marry will be the person you wake up to for the rest of your life. They will be the father or mother of your children. They will be your encouragement, your support, and your life partner–forever.

The best piece of advice I can give to any single person is to simply enjoy your life. Enjoy the time you have now to prepare for the marriage you want in the future. Enjoy the moments you have alone with God to cultivate your heart and your relationship with Him. After all, that is the most important relationship you will ever have–even after you get married.  

You are so loved and so worthy of waiting for the right person to spend your life with.

Until then... learn, prepare, and enjoy your life today!  

XO-

Sabrina